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Queensland PLA Suck Dog’s Balls, Or New Sex Work Advertising Rules

Urgh – Once again I’m reminded that Queensland isn’t the most friendly state when it comes to sex workers. PLA (You know, the Prostitution Regulations Association, even though Prostitute is a known slur to sex workers. Oh and let’s not forget you can’t be a sex worker and sit on the PLA board..) regulations have been updated and it’s hit those who work in the area of Fetish.

Please take notice of the word ‘Fetish’ as it’s what I have to use to advertise. I can no longer use the B acronym as the PLA state it’s listing a service provided (which is against their advertising regulations in Queensland). Which seriously has to be one of the most ridiculous laws you can think of. How are people meant to know who is a sex worker and who isn’t when you can’t list services you provide? Let me guess… won’t somebody think of the children!

The second most rediculous law would be that you can’t have any B acronym images on websites or adverts. Which mean’s I just had to gut my website. I’ll be very interested to see what they do with places like Twitter which are the wild west at the best of times.

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Learning and Expanding

2016 has been an interesting year.

Late 2015 I decided that I wanted to expand my skills and services. This came about from the number of men who contacted me who were not looking for BDSM, but looking to experience a male to male connection, explore their sexuality or learn more about sex and their bodies.

At first I turned these down, as it wasn’t in the skill set I’d mentally set for myself. As time went on and these calls became more and more frequent it dawned on me that this might actually be something to explore. Around this time I had been pondering just what my future was going to hold. I’d been kicking around the idea of doing some further education, and of course it would make sense for me to pursue something in sexuality. There is very little in the way of courses out there for this topic in Australia, seeing as we generally are quite conservative and prudish when it comes to sex and sexuality, especially if it’s not mechanical heterosexual in it’s flavor.

When I was in the USA last year I had the fortune of stumbling across someone who was a sexologist in a tiny American town to the north. He spoke to me about what he did and the course he took, also how much he enjoyed it. That stuck in my mind and when I started looking for courses in Australia I was disappointed to find they were more psychology “sit on my couch and let me assess you” style. At the time that was all I could find however so I considered doing a degree in either social work or psychology, and then going on to do a Masters in Sexology at Curtin University in Western Australia.

With a bit more internet sleuthing I stumbled across someone in the USA who had a great website, offered very similar services to my BDSM but also was a Somatic Body Worker. This was something I had not heard of, and after a bit of digging found the course and realized it was the same course that the person I had spoken to in the USA had done. Even more of a boon was that there was a course in Queensland!

So that leads me to here and now. I’ve just paid off the final payment for my 2017 course in Somatic Body Work and I’m just about to add a new tab to the website on non BDSM services I offer. and when I finish my course in late 2017 I’ll be able to offer another completely separate set of skills. Exciting stuff.

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Traveling to the NT August 7-15 2016

I’m making the trip up to the big NT, Darwin specifically, for a little get away from the usual grind.

I’ll be available for bookings during this time, but will be traveling light equipment wise. If you are looking for a session and are located in Darwin please book ASAP with me as I’ll only be offering limited sessions while there.

You can either use the contact form on here or contact me via my mobile.

Lets see how kinky the big NT can be!

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Trialing New 1/2 Sessions

I’ve had a lot of calls for 1/2 hour sessions lately, and after turning quite a few down I’ve had a bit more of a think and decided to try them out.

I’ll be calling a 1/2 hour session a ‘taster’ – a way to see if you enjoy an activity without paying for a full hour session. There is a limit to what can be done in half an hour however, most BDSM takes time for the submissive to get into the right head space, so I see these sessions more as an instructional way for people to try an activity without a heavy D/s. Continue reading “Trialing New 1/2 Sessions”

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Saline Fun With 13

IMG_2183Saline injection has been something on my radar for a while now. It’s one of those unusual practices in the kink world that isn’t common and while it wasn’t a ‘must do’ kink for me it’s certainly something that planted a seed in my mind.

So when 13’s birthday came up I planned a saline injection session just for him. Under the watchful eyes of an experience saline practitioner (among other things) we took his balls for a spin. However firstly we made time to spread him eagle between my dungeon posts, give him some birthday gut punching and nipple torture.

The saline was an interesting experience and I’m almost keen to try it on myself. The saline stays in your system, fairly localized, for over 24hrs. 13 had an important appointment on the Monday so was a little worried about being stuck with elephant balls – so we put half a bag in at 500ml. Not too long after starting and with little effort his balls were an impressive size and after removing the needles and tape he enjoyed wobbling them around.

He told me later that day that he had an amazing wank.

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IMPACT PLAY

While my journey in all this started with Rope Bondage (more on that later) – the thing that really gets my hot and bothered (in both senses) is Impact Play.

For those unaware Impact Play involves hitting people with, well, hitty things. From paddles, crops, canes, tawse, floggers, whips and various bits in-between.

This kind of play has a lot of appeal for me, firstly it helps people figure out where they lay on the masochist scale. Someone who likes a bit of pain will respond naturally to this type of play.

Hitting with floggers is a great way to start. Floggers are often known as whips, basically long tails of leather, rubber or other material attached to a handle. Flogging doesn’t have to be about pain, it can quite easily be about caressing or sensation. However done right it can drop you very easily into a submissive headspace as your body flood with chemicals in reaction to what is going on.

For me Impact Play is primal, masculine and sexy. It combines very easily with things like fucking when someone is spread eagle on the cross (or between my poles in my dungeon).

The downfall of most impact play is the risk of non-permanent marks to the skin. Crops and canes leave noticeable welts, floggers and whips can leave lovely red lines depending on the ferocity they are used with. Paddles and spanking redden the skin (which does go down rather quickly).

If you are going to engage in this activity then the submissive needs to be very aware that if the risks of marks are too high, then not to engage at that time. You can do things without leaving marks however and some activities are far more low risk mark wise than others (gut punching, Bastinado).